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I adore the LOVE episode not just because it was the first we conceived and recorded, but also because we created it during a vulnerable, introspective moment in my life, not long after I left my then more-than-two-decades-long marriage. I was thinking a lot about, well, love and dating and where I fit into it all after almost a quarter century of being off the market. A quarter century. That kinda makes me feel a little, um, extra seasoned. Be clear, it makes for the best meals.

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DWB: Dating While Black

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It might be cold as ice outside, but inside a barbershop in Toronto's northwest Little Jamaica neighbourhood, things are heating up. The buzz of a razor in action is drowned out by the crowd that has packed the Hair Play Salon to riff about Black love, honesty and hope when it comes to dating and relationships.

Most women want the bad boy, they want the guy who's getting all the girls," says barber Damien Samuels, much to the dismay of many of the women who have braved the cold to share their trials of dating while Black. As Black women, if Black men don't respect or support us, no one else will," says another attendee, speaking over the others fighting to say their piece.

And that's essentially the point of the discussion: to bring Black men and women together to communicate and connect, and to share openly about how they're feeling about the dating scene. HuffPost Canada spoke to a few of the barbershop attendees to get their take on dating while Black, and what brought them to the discussion. I'm on this journey to understand my culture more.

And Black love is really interesting. I've travelled around and noticed that, in Toronto, it's especially hard when it comes to Black love and dating. In Europe, they're more open. But in Toronto, we can't just walk up to someone and tell them that we're interested in them because we're a closed society.

So I guess I just wanted to dive into the dialogue. I think this is what society has made for us, especially with social media. People want to stay inside, they don't want to go outside, especially when it's cold, they don't want to put effort in. So where is there an opportunity to interact with each other? In my parents' day, you could meet someone down the block. Today, we only meet online and have too much choice when you could swipe right or left. In the Black culture, someone might say, "I'm down for you.

We date so passive-aggressively. And because our patience is so short, if one thing is wrong, we lose interest. We don't know unconditional love. As soon as something goes wrong, we're out. Watch: What radical self-love looks like for Black Canadians.

Story continues below. We got to step back and realize what's happened to the Black community. Our history. If you're looking at individuals who have been disconnected from their past, you need to have an understanding of yourself before you can have a relationship with someone else. For Black men, they may have never witnessed love.

I never really witnessed love growing up, my parents were always fighting. Luckily, my friends showed me love. I didn't really know what love was until I started reading and educating myself. We all have our part to play, how are we going to step up? Especially for Black people, how are we going to support each other? Men are known as aggressive, threatening. Black women are known as miserable, as you've heard in tonight's discussion. We've got to come together to defeat these stereotypes.

What we're missing here is, do we got your back? As a society becomes more multicultural, we gotta remember the struggle of our forefathers. That can never be erased. There are still a lot of stereotypes out there. The Black culture doesn't unite.

That is what has to change. These discussions are always interesting. I want to know what others are saying. Most of the girls here are speaking from the "good girl" point of view, but a lot of girls are on the other side of the fence, who don't want to be good.

The point is, knowledge is key, and once you have it, you can use it to your advantage. We just want to know where you're coming from, men, so we can act accordingly. A lot of people want honesty, but they don't want to accept it. I think Black love is an anomaly, it's not the norm. And it's unfortunate that everyone here is looking for love, but they don't know how to find it. We're all looking for love, we're talking about love, but yet we can't connect with the very people who we want it from.

We're hurting. Because it's harder for us to connect. The stigma of the bad boy exists in our community. You might want that but it's not practical to build a life around. So, you want what someone else has, but you're not thinking about all the other pieces that come with it.

We glorify the bad boy culturally. We even have a term for it: gyalis. Can a gyalis be changed? If you grow up with having three, four, five girls, how do you change? We have to take ownership over our actions. If someone's saying he's married and women are still throwing themselves at him, we have to take ownership for that, because they can't cheat if they don't have anyone to cheat with.

And he has to have a reaction if he has a woman on his arm. Whatever his reaction is, I have to base my reaction on that. If he has a girlfriend and tells me so, I can either say yes or no. But we have to be upfront about things. Are people talking about these things outside of organized discussions like tonight?

Absolutely not. They're telling you what you need to know at that given time. In love and life, is it ever fair? Somebody's got to compromise and somebody's got to lead. You have to choose if you want to be the compromising one, or do you want to be the one who leads?

I'm new in the city and I really wanted to understand the dynamics between Black women and men in Toronto. I think there's a lot of misunderstanding between men and women.

I think that's why a lot of women are single; they're trying to understand why they're single and they may think it's just our local environment. But coming tonight and hearing both perspectives, I think it's a global, millennial issue — we're all trying to survive the singles journey.

One of the big ones is the stereotype of the Angry Black Woman. The Black woman can show no emotion. If she's not happy, be careful, she's angry, she has an issue, she's not docile. Watch out! Unfortunately, it's a preconceived idea that hinders us. More and more Black women are well educated, and Black men don't necessarily feel like we need them. We have to adapt ourselves to , we are capable financially, emotionally, to be as competent as men, if not more, but we still desire emotional, mental support.

It doesn't take anything away from who I am and what I stand for. We need to create a better understanding of our needs and who we are. Women have very rational ideas and we look at men to fit into that mold that we already have in our heads.

Once we understand that it's OK to have different opinions in a respectful way, we can come together to build love. I could understand the women's frustration tonight, but if you don't agree, doesn't mean there isn't truth to what some of these men are saying. We have to hear each other and not always react. Canada Edition. Follow Us. Charmaine Noronha. These are hotbed topics, and those in attendance are passionate about speaking up.

Richard Blackwood, restaurant manager. Where do you think this difficulty when it comes to dating stems from? Do you think there are challenges to dating specific to the Black community? Can things change when it comes to dating while Black?

And if so, how? Are there dating issues specific to the Black community?

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It might be cold as ice outside, but inside a barbershop in Toronto's northwest Little Jamaica neighbourhood, things are heating up. The buzz of a razor in action is drowned out by the crowd that has packed the Hair Play Salon to riff about Black love, honesty and hope when it comes to dating and relationships. Most women want the bad boy, they want the guy who's getting all the girls," says barber Damien Samuels, much to the dismay of many of the women who have braved the cold to share their trials of dating while Black. As Black women, if Black men don't respect or support us, no one else will," says another attendee, speaking over the others fighting to say their piece.

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Dating While Black

Following a romance in my early twenties with an older man who, I eventually accepted, was simply at a different stage of life, I went through a series of short relationships of varying significance. I was searching for a committed relationship with a supportive partner, someone I could love deeply and who shared my values and goals. Like many singles, I had created an online dating profile. But I rarely logged in. Now I decided to take it more seriously—these days, I seem to hear fewer and fewer stories of real life meet-cutes. Meanwhile, online, I could decide between sites with free memberships, such as Plenty of Fish; paid sites with an older, more earnest clientele, such as eHarmony; niche sites such as JDATE and Gluten-Free Singles; and many others, all slightly differentiated by price, demographics, and objectives. I signed up for Tinder and Bumble—two apps with simple interfaces that invite users to swipe on pictures of people they find attractive—as well as OkCupid. The last includes more substantial personal profiles. Theoretically, the online world offers greater odds of finding a partner than does a chance meeting at a party.

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Поравнявшись с задним бампером, он взял немного правее. Ему была видна задняя дверца: как это принято в Севилье, она оставалась открытой - экономичный способ кондиционирования. Все внимание Беккера сосредоточилось на открытой двери, и он забыл о жгучей боли в ногах. Задние колеса уже остались за спиной - огромные, доходящие ему до плеч скаты, вращающиеся все быстрее и быстрее. Беккер рванулся к двери, рука его опустилась мимо поручня, и он чуть не упал.

Он знал, что Фонтейн прав: у них нет иного выбора.

Фонтейн кивнул. Агенты связались с ним, когда он находился в Южной Америке, и сообщили, что операция прошла неудачно, поэтому Фонтейн в общих чертах уже знал, что случилось. Тут вступил агент Колиандер: - Как вы приказали, мы повсюду следовали за Халохотом.

В морг он не пошел, поскольку в этот момент напал на след еще какого-то парня в пиджаке и галстуке, вроде бы штатского.

Коммандер. Северная Дакота - это Грег Хейл. Сьюзан едва ли не физически ощутила повисшее молчание.

В этой встрече было что-то нереальное - нечто, заставившее снова напрячься все его нервные клетки. Он поймал себя на том, что непроизвольно пятится от незнакомцев. Тот, что был пониже ростом, смерил его холодным взглядом. - Сюда, мистер Беккер. Быстрее. Беккер повернулся и побежал, но успел сделать только один шаг.

Мы вводим эту цитату. Сейчас. Джабба тяжко вздохнул. Он знал, что Фонтейн прав: у них нет иного выбора. Время на исходе. Джабба сел за монитор.

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Код ошибки 22. Она попыталась вспомнить, что это. Сбои техники в Третьем узле были такой редкостью, что номера ошибок в ее памяти не задерживалось. Сьюзан пролистала справочник и нашла нужный список.

С вами все в порядке? - спросила девушка, заметив, что он переменился в лице. Беккер не мог оторвать глаз от ее руки. У него кружилась голова.

Да, какой-то повторяющийся цикл. Что-то попало в процессор, создав заколдованный круг, и практически парализовало систему. - Знаешь, - сказала она, - Стратмор сидит в шифровалке уже тридцать шесть часов. Может быть, он сражается с вирусом.

Кнопка на полу привела ее в движение, и дверь, издав шипящий звук, отъехала в сторону. Чатрукьян ввалился в комнату.

Следопыт задерживается. Она подумала, не ошиблась ли где-то. Начала просматривать длинные строки символов на экране, пытаясь найти то, что вызвало задержку. Хейл посматривал на нее с самодовольным видом.

Мистер Беккер, я был не прав. Читайте медленно и очень внимательно. Беккер кивнул и поднес кольцо ближе к глазам. Затем начал читать надпись вслух: - Q… U… 1…S… пробел… С, Джабба и Сьюзан в один голос воскликнули: - Пробел? - Джабба перестал печатать.  - Там пробел.

Офицер полиции этого не знает. - Не имеет понятия. Рассказ канадца показался ему полным абсурдом, и он подумал, что старик еще не отошел от шока или страдает слабоумием. Тогда он посадил его на заднее сиденье своего мотоцикла, чтобы отвезти в гостиницу, где тот остановился.

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